Racist jokes, disabled jokes, cancer jokes, sexist jokes are fine but good god DO NOT TALK ABOUT RAPE BECAUSE FORGET ABOUT DOUBLE STANDARDS WAH I GOT RAPED. Give a fuck man, shove your double standards up your arse. Either don’t joke about anything or joke about everything.
Okay this requires a little more critical thinking in my opinion.
1. Racist jokes aren’t funny. They’re an intrinsic part of a massive power structure that subjugates and oppresses most of the population. They’re harmful, and not just to an individual who has experienced it. They perpetuate this flippant attitude that so many people have towards racism, and thus perpetuate the power structure itself. They make people complacent, belittles something that is dead fucking serious.
2. Disabled jokes aren’t funny. I don’t know much about the topic, and it’s kind of obvious why they aren’t funny. Not to mention, that’s probably the least clever joke one could come up with.
3. Cancer jokes…are iffy. So many people die from cancer. Three people that I was very close with died of it. I’m not offended by it. Two of my best friends lost their parents to cancer. From my experience, cancer jokes usually follow thoughts along the line of, “Man, cancer really fucking sucks,” and it’s a coping mechanism. I can see how some cancer jokes would be offensive, but most of the time, it’s really just a means of coping and expressing in a light way how bad cancer sucks.
4. Sexist jokes CAN be funny. Jokes can be prejudiced (I hesitate to use sexist here) against men or women (like how men won’t ask for directions or they’re completely controlled by their dick, both not true, but both can be humorous sometimes). As long as I understand that the person telling the joke knows that it’s stupid, and most of the time that’s apparent (like the ‘go make me a sandwich’ joke), it’s just not a big deal. Using humor to address something is fine. I also think using humor to ridicule something SO stupid as sexism is fine. It points out how ridiculous it is a lot of the time.
5. Rape jokes. Never funny. You all know why. 1 in 5 people. And it’s not just a physical act of violence. It’s a psychological one, and one that only a handful of people really treat seriously. When I see people get mad about others saying rape isn’t funny, it drives me crazy. More and more people are realizing how fucking serious and horrible it is to degrade, dehumanize, and objectify someone, to rob them of their autonomy, their freedom of choice. Just because people start to get angry about it doesn’t mean we’re all insane asshole feminists (although I’d consider myself among those ranks). Think of your 5 year old brother or sister, your mother, your cousin…1 in 5 people. You’ll probably never know. Just stop bitching and don’t fucking joke about it, it’s not that big of a fucking deal.
Also there’s a difference between using irony and humor as coping method or as a method of resistance for oppressed people and a privileged person making fun of something they will NEVER experience in their life and think is hilarious and totally ok to joke about because they say so regardless of how victims/survivors feel. A huge difference. HUGE! There’s also a huge difference between making jokes about an oppressive system and making fun of oppressed people. The first one actually helps to shine a light on oppressive systems and helps to dismantle them (if even just a teeny tiny bit) while at the same time empowering the oppressed people. Meanwhile the second option simply reinforces oppressive systems and further damages the oppressed people.
It’s a contextual thing. ”Tosh.0” making rape jokes, racist jokes, sexist jokes, homophobic jokes, transphobic jokes, abled jokes (which would include cancer jokes, btw), classist jokes = totally not ok under any circumstances ever ever ever ever ever. Anyone making jokes at the expense of rape victims, people of color, women, LGBTQIA people, poor people, people with disabilities, etc etc etc = not ok every under any circumstances AND horribly oppressive. Meanwhile, a homeless guy making jokes about poverty (NOT poor people), a Person of Color making jokes about racism (NOT PoCs), a disabled person making jokes about ableism (NOT people with disabilities), women making jokes about sexism,/misogyny (NOT women), survivors of sexual assault and/or rape making jokes about rape culture (NOT survivors), GSM people making jokes about heterosexism, cissexism, homophobia, and transphobia (NOT GSM people), and so on and so forth = an invaluable tool for coping, resistance, empowerment, and addressing all those oppressive systems.
TL;DR - Check your fucking privilege and don’t bitch when oppressed people call you out for being oppressed. People wanting you to actually treat them with respect and not use their pain as fodder for your humor as though they’re so far below you that they’re not even human and most certainly aren’t deserving basic compassion, empathy, and kindness is not oppressing you and if you really have a problem with not being able to make jokes at the expense of rape victims or any other group of oppressed people you are seriously awful beyond all measure.
“Men are afraid women will laugh at them. Women are afraid men will kill them.” -Margaret Atwood
Reblogging for the Atwood quote, which is showing its truthiness right here.
so, women have privilege because we call men creepy. ok. that makes sense…in backwards land.
creep shaming. bahaha. baha. BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA.
here’s teh thing, cis dudebros.
stop raping us in disproportionate numbers and stop assuming we’re your sexual property. also, stop cat-calling.
and we’ll magically stop ‘creep shaming’ you.
it’s funny how i don’t creep shame guys from my church as they are comfortable with the mode of physical contact i am and they treat me like (gosh) a human being, not a vagina. ( i realize thatn ot all churchdudes are like this, i’m just citing mine).
commentary is relevant as fuck
“creep shaming”… that’s a good one.
if you’re afraid of being labeled “creepy” then don’t be creepy. it’s as simple as that.
see, people call people creepy AND share that information with everyone they know for, in general, 3 reasons: 1) to share their feelings with others in an attempt to deal with them, feelings of fear, feeling uncomfortable and unsafe, feelings of being objectified, any number of upleasant feelings that we are made to feel by creeps on a daily fucking basis that need to be processed and dealt with; 2) to let people know what’s going on in case things turn dangerous and the creepy person turns violent so that they can attempt to keep themselves a bit safer because if people know what’s going on they can be on the look out, be more protective, and potentially identify an attacker if it comes to that; and 3) to keep OTHER people safe, if someone is a known creeper other people need to know to stay away from that person to keep themselves safe and since most of us care about other people we share this information for the good of EVERYONE.
if you don’t like being called creepy stop being creepy, don’t ever be creepy, help people feel safer when they’re dealing with creepers, and fucking take a stand and call people out when they are being creepy. that’s all you have to do, YOU have the power to avoid and even end what you call “creep-shaming” and we call doing our best to deal with living in an environment that is CONSTANTLY dangerous, scary, upsetting, and essentially miserable as fuck.
Its not your body. Its a seperate body with its own limbs organs and DNA. Its not you! It was your body when you chose to spread your legs and it was your body when you chose not to protect yourself and it was still your body when you chose not to get the morning after pill if you were raped or made a mistake. Were all those oppurtunities not enough for you?
Deny people the morning after pill.
Shame them for not using the morning after pill.
Have no idea how rape affects people.
Bask in smug ignorance.
Is the fetus using my body and my organs to grow and develop? Does the fetus require the continual, non-stop usage of my body and my organs to grow and develop? Does the fetus require the usage of my body and my organs to be born? Since the answer to all of these questions is YES then it IS my body. My body is what’s being used by that fetus and NOBODY no person, no fetus, no thing of any sort has the right to use my body without my consent. If I do not fully and freely consent without any sort of coercion to the use of my body, no matter what the situation is, then I have the right to do whatever is necessary to stop my body from being used in ways I do not want. Pretty fucking simple.
Rick Perry has shifted his views on abortion farther to the right, citing a meeting with Rebecca Kiessling, a spokeswoman for Personhood USA who was adopted after her mother, a rape victim, tried and failed to abort her. (via cheatsheet)
You couldn’t find an answer because “rape victims have feelings too” isn’t a concept you understand, Rick.
I am surprised he could look a woman in the eyes. He seems to be very blind when it comes to uterus bearers.
Yes, because after a man has taken a woman’s body for his own sadistic and perfidious uses, he should be allowed to keep doing so in perpetuity. I’m sorry, Mr. Perry, but you do not believe in the Jesus Christ I do, because he would never sanction slavery.
This disingenuous, heartless fucking shitsmear.
I’ve read, seen, and heard Ms. Keissling’s bullshit and it’s preposterous. Her version of things is that saying abortion should be allowed in cases of rape is the exact same thing as saying that children conceived in rape should not be allowed to live, should not live, don’t deserve to live, are unimportant and irrelevant, deserve to die, don’t deserve life. She clearly has some serious self-esteem issues which is legitimately sad but the fact that she’s shoving her problems onto the rest of us and trying to force everyone else on the planet to be responsible for her issues is so heinous I honestly can’t stand it.
I sent her a few emails about this, she never responded (suprise!) because the simple fact is that abortion really had nothing to do with whether or not the fetus (or resultant person should it come to that) is important or relevant or deserves life. We get that life is important and valuable but the development of a fetus is not nearly as important as the simple, basic right of a person to have a say in what happens to hir own body. Pregnant people have the right to choose, uncoerced, whether or not they actually consent to a pregnancy, to carrying a fetus to term, to delivering it. Anyone who believes that pregnant people should not have that right or that anything about the fetus is more important than that is failing at basic human decency, basic human rights and freedoms, and just simple logic.
Awhile back I posted the bioware article about gamer privilege in reference to DragonAge2 and it’s whole same-sex relationships option on my facebook page along with the Dr. Nerdlove post about straight male privilege in nerddom and had a discussion about it with a number of friends in the resultant threads. The threads involved a number of male gamers who I personally like and respect and who generally like and respect me (at the very least we are friends who do game together or have gamed together in the past without incident). These men are people who I would believe are not overtly sexist or misogynistic in any way and who are at least mildly aware of their own privilege so I was really bothered when they started arguing with me about the article - namely by defending the jerky male behavior many female gamers face with the excuse of “social awkwardness.” I pointed out things like microagression and othering and the fact that while there are some people who are genuinely accepting of women in nerdery there are far more people who are outright shitty or at the very least unwelcoming and rude but I only just now, over a month after the fact, realized what the real problem with those threads actually was - victim blaming.
Getting drunk to the point of not being able to make informed decisions, and then having sex IS RAPE
Getting high for the first time and having no idea what the fuck is going on, and then having sex IS RAPE
Going on a date and being coerced into having sex IS RAPE
Being forced to have sexual contact that you don’t want, be that sex without a condom, sex on your period, public sex, him insisting on a blowjob IS RAPE
Wanting to stay a virgin until marriage and having someone convince you and convince you and convince you for months that sex is okay, and then having sex IS RAPE
Saying NO, then having sex IS RAPE
Changing your mind during sex and not having that decision obeyed IS RAPE
Having one Smirnoff ice, dozing by a campfire with a female friend and her fiance, then waking up to the fiance having sex with you while you’re unconscious, sober, but don’t have a clue if you’re dreaming or not, and in any case certainly couldn’t consent to sex while sleeping, IS RAPE.
Being so scared that you’re shocked into submission, scared into submission, or just don’t feel like you have the energy to fight, IS RAPE.
Trying to file rape charges against someone, and being told that police are “unable to” IS STILL RAPE.
Having your safeword ignored IS RAPE.
Bottom line: If you’re a woman or a man, and you feel sex was against your will or that it caused personal trauma or that it was rape…YOU DEFINE RAPE, AND YOU DEFINE HOW YOU HEAL.
Okay so people who aren’t women or men and have “sex” without their consent aren’t being raped?
And saying no during something like consensual non-consent and still having sex is rape?
NO. OP learn a little bit first. Your intentions are good, but you’re ignoring people who aren’t binary-identified and/or people within the BDSM community who may or may not use feigned defiance as part of their play.
Police in Toronto are telling girls at the Greenwood College private school that in order to avoid a pervert (who harassed two female students by looking up their skirts), they shouldn’t wear their school uniforms on public transit.
Apparently, the officer doesn’t think it’s wise for female students to wear skirts on the TTC, since the pervert looks up their skirts. In terms of the two girls who were harassed, he says, “if they had, for example, jeans or sweatpants on, it wouldn’t be an issue.”
Law enforcement officials advising young girls not to wear skirts because there are perverts out there are sending the message that in wearing the skirts the girls are to blame for the harassment. Whether they intend to or not, they are reinforcing the belief that women are responsible for the behavior that their clothing provokes in other people.
maybe they wear the vagina showing skirts, idk the full story. but dont wear revealing stuff if you dont want to be looked at that way?
Uh, no. First of all, these are UNIFORM kilts. Not the sexy schoolgirl costumes you have in mind. These kilts come down to the knee. These girls are wearing what they’re “supposed” to be wearing to look like good, conservative, upper-class, private school students. The problem is not their uniforms. The problem is misogyny, in the form of assholes who fetishize school girls and have no respect for them as human beings. And harassed them by looking up their skirts. That’s not ogling them from afar, or making eyes at them. That’s invading their personal space and violating their bodily autonomy and integrity.
Second of all, nothing that anyone wears (or doesn’t wear, for that matter) can or should be taken as an invitation for harassment.
Think about what you’re saying before you type, seriously.
Above commentary bolded by me because fucking YES.